The world has been shaken up lately with the news and awareness of depression and to be honest I’m glad and just hope it doesn’t fade out like every other trend/news, but just in case it does, here’s my 2 cents and tips.
While everyone is checking on their seemingly “strong” friend, here are things to note:
Are you Ok? Are you strong, sane and patient to take on what it entails to check on a friend. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to be financially buoyant, nice and all that to check on a friend, but you have to be patient and your motive must be pure, because not everyone that checks up actually cares, some are just looking for another news/gist/accolade to be on. Apart from that, you have to be ok, are you also going through things? You can’t give what you don’t have.
To want to be there for a depressed fellow, you have to be patient, because it’s not easy opening up to someone, due to past experiences and observations. Most times, all they need is for someone to be there for them, they might not tell you what they are going through, but they just need to be reminded that they are loved and needed in this world.
Dear Checkee (strong friend),
Please be don’t keep to yourself. Yes, experiences have made you to close up your heart to help, but open them up to those who truly care and want to help, because it’s through that you get healing. Keeping to yourself never helps.
we are waiting for someone to check up on us (it might take forever to be noticed and we can’t keep waiting), here’s how to be sane:
- Find an avenue to let it out: Keeping it inside of you never helps, there’s only much your body can take. Write, sing, dance but don’t keep it inside. For me, I’m much of a talker, so I record voice notes about everything – my day, experiences, failures and this helps to let off steam. You can start writing, it doesn’t have to be of your day, but anything that comes to your mind/feelings. Sing – any song or words that come to your head (it doesn’t have to make sense), dance (a music doesn’t have to be played), I do this and I tell you, you will feel better, your mind and heart is purged of the panics and what ifs because you feel free.
- Mind: Your mind is the most powerful thing you have, and to fight depression, you have to change your mindset, your perspective on life – find beauty in everything and anything. Fight those thoughts with strong words, shout it if you have to,. have strong affirmations all around you (phone. sticky notes, music, videos, everywhere.etc) YOU ARE GREAT. NOTHING CAN STOP ME. I’M LOVED!
- Affirmations: Fight those thoughts with strong words, shout it if you have to. Have strong affirmations all around you (phone. sticky notes, music, videos, everywhere.etc). I listen to Joel Osteen’s 2009 audio messages and I tell you, those messages are what you need to uplift and boost your mindset, confidence, and life! I listen to them on my way to work (if you will like to have them, just drop your email address in the comment section, will try and put them up here later on)
- Repeat this out loud: I AM GREAT. NOTHING CAN STOP ME. I’M LOVED! I’M STRONGER THAN IT ALL.
While we are at it, don’t forget to check up on your seemingly “weak” friends, those we know are struggling, have the signs glaring, the fact that it’s glaring doesn’t mean they are receiving help, help them, and don’t forget yourself, YOU ARE STRONGER THAN IT ALL!